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Sex Traffickers Recruiting and Dating Minors?

Why are male sex traffickers ‘well-dressed’, ‘handsome’, ‘cute’, ‘thin’ or ‘good-looking’? Is this on purpose in order to entice young girls or teenagers?

So how does date night work between a predator and his or her prey? Without multiple real accounts from witnesses, we can assume that each ‘date’ operates differently. We can read second hand sources told by news coverage or non profit organizations.


Let’s say for instance that a young woman decides to meet this ‘Joe Smith’ on this ‘date’ after their conversation via Facebook or Instagram Direct Message. When she meets up with him, they may have a ‘nice’ time at first and then what? At some point during the date, he kidnaps her. Is it possible that the trafficker’s sidekick or male or female gang member shows up to help with the kidnapping? Is the counterpart waiting around the corner to shove the victim in the car?

We can only speculate and form theories without first hand accounts. However, there are news articles, documentaries, movies, and even a TV episode from Dr Phil retelling the abduction story of a sex slave in detail. Many of them are branded with tattoos of their former pimps nickname. But what about other victims who were exploited but escaped to freedom who have chosen not to tell their story? What happened in their situation? Was it the same as everyone else or completely different? Did the trafficker use a new or different strategical method for his attack to recruit the young female?

Courtesy of Polaris, Human Trafficking Center 2014

What is the reason for having first hand accounts told?

Yes, we sympathize with their stories, but we also get a chance to learn about tactics and strategies on how these criminals use their own form of recruitment to catch their ‘fish.’ Each trafficker probably imposes a unique or slightly different recruitment strategy. If they were all the same, then we would have caught everyone by now, right?

It’s clear that not all young victims come forward with their personal stories. Why? Perhaps they are afraid of getting caught again if they reveal their whereabouts or real name on TV or news coverage, or they may believe that their own experience was their fault, or, it’s just too difficult to talk about. Whatever the reason it’s imperative that we not only hunt down these manipulative criminals but also learn about their strategical methods and tactical ways to recruit minors.

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Sex Traffickers on Instagram and Social Media?

How are male and female sex traffickers promoting themselves on Instagram? How is human trafficking used on social media? According to, one male gang member (who was 25) used images of cash, fine dining cuisines and luxury shopping to show his rich lifestyle.

In his Instagram posts, he used words and phrases such as “I treat u like royalty” or “babygirl” and “I’m way to too young to be living like this . . . “


What is the goal of his Instagram profile page? To attract teens and young female adults by getting their attention. Minors, especially girls, at this young age may lack confidence and self-esteem, making them the perfect target for a predator who is an expert at manipulation. Not only Instagram but Facebook is also quite popular among traffickers for recruiting girls into sex slavery.

The criminal will send a friendly Facebook message to the girl in hopes that she will agree to meet him. In this message, he tells her that she is pretty and if she’s interested in making money. At this point, he takes a chance on whether or not she will ignore his message or reply back and agree to meet somewhere. In some of the Facebook messages sent by male traffickers, you’ll notice their grammar and spelling is exceptionally poor. Whether this is done deliberately, I don’t know. Either that, or they are really bad at English. Either way, this is a red flag!


Why? Because if you, or someone you know, receives a random Facebook message or Instagram DM (direct message) from a strange person who uses poor grammar or compliments you on your physical body, then you should be alarmed. They’re either a creepy stranger, stalker, or dangerous trafficker.

Facebook-skeptical-worldWhat should you do if this happens? Flag their profile on Facebook (or block them on instagram). Then report it to the National Human Trafficking Resource Center Hotline 1-888-373-7888. You can also report it by filling out an online form at the following website: 

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A Tribute to Partners Terri and Bobbi

I met Terri who was wearing a volunteer tag and assisting mobility impaired participants at a conference.  Six of us met at a restaurant while waiting for separate tables, and ended up agreeing to sit at one large table in order to be seated sooner. Terri explained she enjoyed serving as a volunteer in order to be able to attend parts of it for free.

Terri was quite a tomboy with her buttoned down shirt tucked into pants held up with a big black belt. She had a flop of straight brown hair that flipped back and forth over her eye glasses, and a bright, quick laugh reminiscent of the ungendered character named “Pat“ from Saturday Night Live.

But Terri soon proved to be a much more introspective person than her casual male attire hinted at. Terri explained how she had not seen her family since she left home twenty years ago at the age of 18 because, “she was different and her parents didn’t accept it.” She said, “I always knew I was different” but explained there had been no exchange of phone calls, cards, or letters with family since leaving.

Terri wore a wedding band and explained the special person in her life was named Bobbi, who sometimes used a wheelchair due to her having diabetic neuropathy. Terri and Bobbi had been together since Terri came to California over twenty years ago. Terri proudly explained she took care of Bobbi and the pride in her face showed she thrived on being needed and wanted.  

When I inquired about Terri’s job, she proudly explained, “I protect my synagogue.” She had begun working security part-time at the synagogue and had worked her way into a fulltime position. Terri proudly added that with her fulltime position, she was able to take care of herself and Bobbi.

Terri explained her conversion to Judaism which was in process, was due to Bobbi, who had fought constantly with her mother while growing up, but in the end, had left home and announced to her family she was claiming her father’s religion and was going to be Jewish from that day forward. Terri decided that she wanted to be the same religion as Bobbi.

Both women were then faced with which synagogue to join. Terri explained, “Out of the five local synagogues, we chose the one where the Rabbi had a partner. We felt it was our best chance to be accepted.” Throughout our entire conversation, no one ever used the words “gay,” “lesbian,” or “homosexual,” yet our communication was clear. 

I learned something important from Terri that evening during dinner. I realized the words “gay,” “lesbian,” and “homosexual” had taken on a negativity not reflected in Terri’s spirit. It made me wonder if the usage of these negative words was intentionally injected by the heterosexual writers for the news media?

Terri now has a mission in her life and a purpose. She is caring for Bobbi, protecting her synagogue, and making a personal decision to change her religion.  Terri is contributing to the betterment of herself and her community. Mazel Tov!